Sunday, January 22, 2012

3 Months

Standing is his FAVORITE activity!

This month has been consumed by my worries about sleep. There are SO many different sleep theories out there that no matter which one I try, I end up feeling guilty. If it's a parent-led approach like Babywise then I feel like I'm not listening to Quinn and his needs (even though he never goes hungry), if I let Quinn lead I get nervous that he's not sure what he needs and needs my help to be in a certain schedule. If he's awake, I'm worried he's not getting enough sleep. If he's asleep, I'm worried that he's sleeping too much and will get off "schedule" or not eat enough during the day and interrupt his night time sleep. If he sleeps too much at night, I'm worried it will affect my milk supply. And if he wakes too early- I'm annoyed. I seriously could drive myself crazy with all of these theories. Here's the thing I've come to understand-- NOT ONE IS RIGHT! There is no "right" way to parent when it comes to sleep except to help your child be as rested and as happy as possible- which I've come to learn means that you have to make choices sometimes about their sleep/eating pattern and you have to let them make "choices" sometimes when they are clearly telling you what they need. And sometimes I make mistakes and it becomes a trial and error process. And those times I need to learn to forgive myself and not beat myself up over it! I have been blessed with a baby that loves to sleep. He sleeps 8-10 hours uninterrupted at night (and then I wake him because I'm nervous about my milk supply) and takes 2-3 long naps during the day (on a GOOD day). But there are always those days where he seems to just want to nap for 40 minutes at a time but still seems tired which throws me for a loop-- when should he eat? Is he waking because he's hungry? Is it too bright in his room and so when he even half wakes up, there is no hope of getting back to sleep because of the light? Should I rock him longer before I put him down? Is he old enough to learn how to self soothe? It's never ending... My thoughts and prayers have been consumed.

On a brighter note-- my little boy is starting to emerge from a sleepy newborn! These days are filled with smiles, coos and bubbles. I'm greeted with a smile every time I come into get him from his crib. He has started drooling like crazy and that has come with him blowing bubbles all day. His favorite toy is his playmat gym. He is content under it for at least 20 minutes! He grabs the toys above him and tries to get them in his mouth, he bats at them, and he smiles at them. He's doing so much better with his tummy time! He still doesn't like it that much, but he will at least last about 3-5 minutes instead of about 30 seconds! He's obsessed with the tv-- which I know is bad-- but we use it as a reward to get him to hold his head up during tummy time and it works!! He has shown absolutely no interest in rolling over which is fine by me. I've seen so many changes this past month that I've learned how fast thing change! I can't even picture what 4 months will be like!

Love his smiles

He LOVES his daddy. After long days with me, he is always filled with smiles and giggles for his dad when he gets home. I can always count on Aaron to turn a grumpy baby into a happy baby in a matter of minutes when he gets home. I've also been blessed with a husband that puts Quinn down to sleep every single night. It's one of my favorite times of the day. I get time to just relax.

One of the next steps for Quinn is getting rid of his swaddle blanket. He hated it at first, but now loves being all snug in it! I've tried him out of it during a couple naps. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't and he's left going crazy with his hands and arms in the crib and unable to get to sleep. Our pediatrician told us that we should start to try one arm out at 4 months and progress from there, so I'm not in too big of a hurry. It would just be nice to be able to just lay him in bed and let him soothe himself to sleep. I know those may be far fetched dreams right now, but I'm hoping it happens in the near future! :)

This month I started back to work. I'm going to work one day a week. Other than one incident, Quinn has done great taking a bottle from others. He has let us know that he prefers it WARM-- he literally will spit it out and not take it if it's not nice and toasty warm. I've only worked one night so far but he was great for his dad. He slept all night. My mom is watching him in the mornings after I work so that I can get in a couple hours of sleep. It seemed to work really well! I'm not going to say that I look forward to the next time that I work, but I know that Quinn is fine while I am at work. It's really nice not to worry about him.

We haven't had a doctors appointment since 2 months and we won't go until he is 4 months old. So we are really excited to see how much weight he has gained and how tall he is! Each month is more exciting than the last! I can't wait to see what he's up to this month! :)

New Years Eve doing Quinn's favorite activity-- STANDING!
Happy baby

Love his baby toes!

Working on tummy time... with a burp cloth of course!

And last I'll leave you with a video-- please excuse my silly mommy voice!!


  1. You are so right, there is no one right way to schedule, and I am definitely learning that too! It sounds like you and Quinn are doing so well, I would try not to worry! Are you pumping at night before you go to bed? I've found that I have to so I don't wake up miserable in the morning. He is so adorable, I love the video!!

  2. Emily, he is adorable!! I can't believe he is standing {and loving it} .. that's great!! Cute video ... and the Mom voice is priceless!

  3. Oh my goodness, I love that video of Quinn! You guys are so great! Miss you!

  4. Thanks for the post, love the updates! I know what you mean about the whole sleeping thing - I feel like it's hard to keep balanced and not become obsessed! I will say that I read Babywise first, and I agreed with a lot of what they said. But then I read "Healthy sleep habits, happy child" and I felt it provided a good counter-balance to babywise, and I learned some valuable things about sleep organization, napping patterns, etc. It is much more in-depth than Babywise. And did you know that the author, Marc Weissbluth is director of the Center for Sleep Disorders at CMH? Pretty cool! Anyways thanks for the pics and videos. It's fun to see him, b/c Will does the same things, the hand-waving and kicking, loving to stand, little coos, all that stuff. It's so fun!